Coaching is not about giving advice, asking lots of questions or telling people what to do. It’s not about diagnosing people, being a therapist or a counsellor. It's about having someone sit there and be a mirror to you.
A life coach isn't someone who's nailed it at life and can tell you all the secrets of how to nail it too. Being a coach is about being the person who helps someone to help them-self by empowering them – empowering people to see that if the problem lies within, then so does the solution. You will become empowered to seek the right support, become independent or get confidence back in getting what you want out of life.
More than anything, coaching is about listening. Not talking, but really listening to someone who just wants to be listened to and be understood by someone who won't judge. It’s about being listened to by someone who will simply understand you and demonstrate their understanding by reflecting your words and affirming your strengths back to you.
We will help you to reconnect with what really matters to you and help you to work out a plan based on your own personal values. Coaching is not about telling people what they 'should' do.
With compassion and without any pressure, we will help you to rediscover who you really are and help you to realise what you need to do to help yourself (almost) all on your own. 90% of the realising comes from you hearing your own words come out of your mouth and the other 10% comes from the coach gently steering and helping you to make a plan.
We will help you realise that as much as negative triggers can make a person spiral downwards, positive triggers can help you to spiral upwards into recovery and good mental health.
When I ask a client “how are you feeling?” at the end of a session and they tell me they feel “energised” or “inspired” – I know I’ve made a difference to them in some way, even if it’s just for that day.
Some of my clients have said that coaching has worked better or is better suited to them than counselling. They tell me that it worked for them because it’s real and “person to person”.